Have no regrets.

“Don’t be afraid to fail. Be afraid not to try.” 

Hello all! I hope you have had a good Saturday and that you have a lovely smile on your face! I can’t emphasise enough how lovely it is to try and ensure people are as happy as possible. If you aren’t feeling particularly happy today, remember that things do get better. You have to endure a storm before you see the sunshine. 

Now do you have any regrets? Have you ever done anything that you now look back on and regret? Wish things could of been different? I think we’ve all had done something that we’re not proud of but what I say is, why regret something you can’t change? I see things as in the past, meaning they should simply stay there whilst you live in the present and look forward to the future. The present is called this for a reason, it is a gift. Look forwards, not back.
 
I think this photo is such an important thing to read. I know people who have done things, immediately regret it but then it has shaped them and their future. Some regrets make you stronger, some wiser and some a better person. Best that in mind when you are so hard on yourself for something you may have or haven’t done. 

  
There are many movies that show someone get involved with the wrong people, they do something that they hate then they are constantly thinking about it. When somethings done, it is done. Although there are some things that have major implications, there is nothing more you can do. I can’t stress enough how short life is to overthink, worry and most importantly…regret. I know beautiful souls that have passed and they didn’t truly live. They didn’t take a risk or make lots of memories, and you only have one life to do everything that you want to do. Life is not a dress rehearsal, it’s live. Make the most of it each and every day. Live it like it’s your last. 

When you awake, try and give yourself a smile and try and start the day as a positive one. Days where you don’t attempt to live, smile and appreciate is another day where energy is wasted on the wrong thing. Give yourself some positive energy, not negative and you will see life in quite a different light. 

  
This film is by far the cutest. This movie actually represents taking a risk and living with no regret. I know it’s not a real thing but try and look to the future, not the past. That doesn’t have to define you anymore. The present and the future is yours, make it great lovely ones! 

Now I better go, I have a christening tomorrow for a beautiful little boy! I hope you have a good Sunday! Wake up with a smile and promise for a great day ahead! (It is possible, even if it is a Sunday!) 

Much love my dears, 

Asha 

Don’t you worry your pretty little mind, people throw rocks at things that shine.

Overthinkng sucks. What messes with us most is the picture in our head of how it is supposed to be. We do something, go home and think and think and think. When you’re alone you think and think and think which leads to negative thoughts. Why can’t we have the days when we went to bed with absolutely nothing on our minds? 

Look at you. You’re young. And you’re scared. Why are you so scared? Stop being so paralysed and stop swallowing your words. Stop caring what other people think. Wear what you want, say what you want and listen to the music that you want. Play it loud and dance to it. Smile at every opportunity and stop waiting for something that isn’t there. This life is yours. When are you going to realise that you can do whatever you want? – Louise Flory 

“Have you ever considered that we lead ourselves on? We overthink everything. Every touch, every look, every text. We create scenarios in our minds and imagine ourselves with that person. Building it into something that isn’t, something it never was. Maybe we break our own hearts.” This quote blew me away! I feel like every single thing that matters to us, goes through our head and is overthought. Although it can be interesting to imagine different things in our heads, when dies it become too far? Is that when we cry ourselves to sleep because of how much it spins around in our mind? Is it the expectation for something to “be” and the reality is the complete opposite? Which then leads to feeling down? When does overthinking become too much? 

Darling, the worlds not really against you, the only thing that’s against you is yourself. When we learn how to stop overthinking, that is when things can become spontaneous and much easier for us. Overthink can cause problems that aren’t even there. We need to let things come as they go and just go with it, rather than imagine what “could be”.

We also need to realise what flirting is and what being polite means. When someone smiles or asks you how your day is, although we may seem to get the impression that they may be interested, we still need to bear in mind that confusion for what flirting is and what politeness is is two very similar, yet different things. Therefore we need to differentiate each one and stop rethinking things.

“Sometimes, you have to stop thinking so much and just go where your heart takes you” when things get complicated, don’t overthink the situation and just let things go. Go where your heart takes you and live life from how it takes you. 

Next time you overthink, realise how unnecessary it is and how you could spend time on being spontaneous and therefore reducing so much stress instead. Which path would you choose? 

Also. Stop comparing yourself to others. You have your own race to run. Finish well. 

Lots of love and until next time lovely people, 

Asha 

Now you are a star in the sky.

Hello lovely people! How are you all doing? I now apologise for not writing recently but a lot is going on at college so it is has been difficult to find the time to write for all you gorgeous people! I hope you are all smiling and feeling happy and positive!  You all deserve to feel only the best!

How is your day going? What has been the highlight of your day? I spent today with a dear friend who made me smile! I think spending time with the people who mean the most to you is such a great thing. If ever you feel low, spend the time with people who make you feel better about yourself because laughter is the finest medicine.

Yesterday was a tough day. Tuesday the 26th of January was the day that this world lost an absolute legend. My uncle was taken from this world. Sadly I never had the chance to meet him however from what I’ve heard and seen, I know how amazing he was. A mother lost a child, Brothers lost another brother, daughters lost a dad and many lost a friend. Suffering from a loss can be such a dreadful experience. It’s as if a piece of a puzzle is missing and can never be found again. A hole in the heart appears and time can never make it truly heal.

When somebody dies, you never really heal. Not a day goes by when you’re not missing them or feeling the hole in your heart that only this person could fill.

If you can relate to this, have you ever thought as to how maybe God needed another angel and the sky needed another star? This person may not be here anymore, but they are still in your heart and still in your mind. Look to the sky and smile at the stars because they are there, watching over you and protecting you, like a guardian angel. You may contain this huge hole in you that you don’t think can be healed, however much support and love can help this hole to be warm.

If you lose somebody, many supportive people will be there to catch you when you fall, love you when you feel low and get you through this tough journey. This loved one may have been taken from you, however they will still stand by your side and protect you from above.

Things will be alright, even if it doesn’t always seem like it. This post can relate to anyone who may have lost someone special.

Smiling and laughing is the best medicine and hugs and support is something that can be done by so many people around you. Help will be there for ones who ask for it. Everything will be alright.

I hope you are all alright, and are feeling happy and positive. Much love for you all.

 

Asha

Smile! It’s beautiful.

Did you know that the prettiest thing a person can wear is a smile?

I hope you are all well and that you are being the best version of you! Whatever happens, no matter how badly you’ve been knocked down, make them wonder how you’re still smiling.

I do apologise for not posting recently, a lot has happened where it’s been difficult to post a bit of positivity however I feel a lot better now. Hope you haven’t missed me and the blog posts too much!

Now did you know that by smiling, it boosts your immune system. Smiling really can improve your physical health, too. Your body is more relaxed when you smile, which contributes to good health and a stronger immune system. If doing something as easy as smiling helps your health and well being, why not give it a go?

Smiling also makes you feel a lot better in yourself. Studies have shown that when a person is truly smiling, it affects certain muscles that actually make you feel happy or joyful. You smile because you are happy and when certain muscles are hit, your brain sends even more happy signals, or endorphins. Smiling is awesome. Try it. I feel that by smiling at other people, it helps them to feel better in themselves and believe it or not, I think smiles are actually contagious! Make you and another person feel truly happy.

Another interesting thing is that whether or not there is a language barrier with others, siling is a universal thing! Language may be a barrier, but facial expressions like the smile, pass through anywhere you travel. If you are away and you’re feeling particularly friendly, give someone a smile, I think they’d really appreciate it! (Plus, it makes you feel a lot more friendly and approachable!)

I saw a woman this afternoon on the bus who had the most spectacular energy about her. She came onto the bus with smiles, laughs and just a great personality. I feel that being around that can really help you to feel better about yourself. When she got on, she smiled at me and it made me feel so much better about myself and my day. She again, smiled at me as she got off and it made me have a constant smile on my face too. You don’t always realise how much a smile can mean to one person. Do it whenever you can, every sing day. (It’s free after all!)

Did you also know that, Studies have proven that 70% of people find smiling faces to be better-looking than faces with makeup. If you are trying to impress, simply smile.

Don’t feel like exercising? SMILE. It takes 26 muscles to be able to smile – so work out your face! I found this and it made me feel so good about smiling. Something that is reasonably easy for us and especially beneficial can actually be a form of working out, what can be better than that?

 Struggle with job related situations? Smile smile smile.  Smiling shows your boss that you are engaged and easy to work with, i.e. it’s your way up the corporate ladder. When I went for a job interview, I constantly smiled and it really helped the employers to understand how eager you are to get involved and prove that you are right for the position! This would easily apply to university or college interviews too. Get smiling people.

Let the smile change the world, don’t let the world change that lovely smile of yours. One thing you have in your life that will never change, your ability to smile. There are so many opportunities for us out there and smiling can really help us towards success. Use your power of a smile, it is beautiful.

So keep your head up, keep your chin up, and most importantly smile. Because regardless of what’s going on,there are some beautiful things in this world to smile about.

We all deserve to have a smile on our face, we are all gorgeous individuals who have very potential to be happy. The journey to happiness is possible for all of us, smiling just gets you there a lot quicker!

YOU! YEAH YOU. You have a smile that can light up the whole world. Your smile is the paradise. Use it and show the world the beauty that you possess.

Smile, it’s beautiful.

Until next time,

Asha

 

 

 

 

 

Rest in peace, Snape.

“When I’m 80 years old and sitting in my rocking chair, I will still be reading Harry Potter and my family will say to me “after all this time?” And I will say “Always”. 

Can we all take a moment to say goodbye to Alan Rickman aka Professor Snape. This spectacular man was taken from us on the 14th of January due to cancer. Gone, but certainly not forgotten.

Harry Potter is especially close to my heart so to hear this, was absolutely devastating.

Snape once taught me that braveness is the most valuable trait of them all. Throughout Harry Potter, Snape and Harry clashed constantly and many thought of Snape as a miserable person. We later on discovered that Snape had always actually looked out for Harry and was one of the bravest one of them all. Sometimes the hardest people are often the bravest. Alan Rickman was the greatest slytherin that lived.

Mr Rickman was a very talented man. I am actually stunned to know he is gone. We will never forget the many characters that he played so so well. He was truly a legend! 

Snape also taught us that heroes can hide in the most unlikely places.


Now I better go, but let’s take today as a day to remember the amazing, Alan Rickman. Thank you so much for all you gave us.

Much love, 

Asha 

 

Defeat the depression!

You wake up, you hate yourself. You go downstairs and see smiles on people and you think, why isn’t that me? You go to school and someone says “Stop being so depressing” and you look in the mirror and despise everything that looks back on you. You hate what you see and you feel like nothing is going to make these feelings go away.

Things that run through your mind are “I feel like such a disappointment”, “Why am I still here?”, “Why aren’t i good enough?”, “It gets worse at night when I’m alone” and the most saddening one…”I hate myself” Instead of people judging and insulting others who may feel like this, why not give some support instead?

Just in case you didn’t know, Depression is a mental health disorder, a psychiatric condition. Specifically, it is a mood disorder characterized by persistently low mood in which there is a feeling of sadness and loss of interest.

Did you also know that globally,  an estimated 350 million people of all ages suffer from depression. 1 in 4 people will experience some kind of mental health issue in the course of a year. How sad is that?

If you know someone who may suffer from depression or if you are familiar with this, you will be aware of the names that are called. “Depressed” “Boring” “Suicidal” “Sad” “Annoying” etc etc. Why call someone who is fighting something, words that will just make them deteriorate? If someone doesn’t understand a mental health issue, that is okay but the words that are used to someone who is slowly drowning in their own darkness can be the worst thing to possibly do.

Guess what though? You are stronger than you think. Just for tonight, hold on because you are worth it and you are beautiful.

There are many organisations that can help you get through this struggle. One example is Off the Record which is based in Bristol. They aim to help individuals who suffer from a Mental Health issue or from self harm. Contacting this charity can be done by going onto their website. I promise you, you are not alone. Just hang on in there and receive as much help as you can,its there for those who ask for it.

The storm won’t last forever, it will pass and the sunshine will shine my darlings. Please don’t think you are fighting this battle alone. With others who can help, together you can defeat the depression and can help you get you smiling again, it just takes time my beautiful one.

I hope you get better soon if this applies to you and hey, keep smiling if you can because it is truly beautiful. Seek the help that is offered to you if you are struggling. Much love is sent to you.

Until next time,

Asha

Don’t you worry your pretty little mind, people throw rocks at things that shine.

Overthinkng sucks. What messes with us most is the picture in our head of how it is supposed to be. We do something, go home and think and think and think. When you’re alone you think and think and think which leads to negative thoughts. Why can’t we have the days when we went to bed with absolutely nothing on our minds? 

Look at you. You’re young. And you’re scared. Why are you so scared? Stop being so paralysed and stop swallowing your words. Stop caring what other people think. Wear what you want, say what you want and listen to the music that you want. Play it loud and dance to it. Smile at every opportunity and stop waiting for something that isn’t there. This life is yours. When are you going to realise that you can do whatever you want? – Louise Flory 

“Have you ever considered that we lead ourselves on? We overthink everything. Every touch, every look, every text. We create scenarios in our minds and imagine ourselves with that person. Building it into something that isn’t, something it never was. Maybe we break our own hearts.” This quote blew me away! I feel like every single thing that matters to us, goes through our head and is overthought. Although it can be interesting to imagine different things in our heads, when dies it become too far? Is that when we cry ourselves to sleep because of how much it spins around in our mind? Is it the expectation for something to “be” and the reality is the complete opposite? Which then leads to feeling down? When does overthinking become too much? 

Darling, the worlds not really against you, the only thing that’s against you is yourself. When we learn how to stop overthinking, that is when things can become spontaneous and much easier for us. Overthink can cause problems that aren’t even there. We need to let things come as they go and just go with it, rather than imagine what “could be”.

We also need to realise what flirting is and what being polite means. When someone smiles or asks you how your day is, although we may seem to get the impression that they may be interested, we still need to bear in mind that confusion for what flirting is and what politeness is is two very similar, yet different things. Therefore we need to differentiate each one and stop rethinking things.

“Sometimes, you have to stop thinking so much and just go where your heart takes you” when things get complicated, don’t overthink the situation and just let things go. Go where your heart takes you and live life from how it takes you. 

Next time you overthink, realise how unnecessary it is and how you could spend time on being spontaneous and therefore reducing so much stress instead. Which path would you choose? 

Also. Stop comparing yourself to others. You have your own race to run. Finish well. 

Lots of love and until next time lovely people, 

Asha 

Nothing is worth it if you’re not happy

Did you know that being single doesn’t always mean lonely and a relationship doesn’t always mean you’re happy? 

I feel like many people who are in relationships, are struggling. They spend a lot of their time being upset, paranoid, jealous and miserable. What I am asking is if you’re in a relationship where they cause you to cry everyday, you need to stop and ask yourself whether you’re dating a human or an onion. Are you unhappy my dear? If so, only you can do something about that. 

If someone constantly makes you unhappy, have you considered how it may be best to let that person go. The memories will still remain in your life, even if the person doesn’t. 

I know a few people who are not happy anymore in their relationship. They now spend the majority of their time feeling upset, paranoid, confused which then causes them to seriously overthink. 

I know how it feels to experience a break up. You can sometimes feel numb, empty, confused and can usually take you a while to recover and heal. Although time can be long and painful, it does work. It can help you to heal, smile, consider the meaningful things in life and can help you to actually feel better about yourself. In the short term, don’t get me wrong it’s horrible! But as time passes, so does the healing process. You will be okay after a break up, I promise. Having friends and family around can help you so so much! As long as you let those special people help you heal, you can get through it. 

One of the hardest parts of life is deciding whether to walk away or try harder. Once you’ve tried your best, maybe the best option is to walk away. It’ll be their loss trust me. Don’t settle for any less than what you deserve. If you’re not happy, change whatever needs changing to enable your happiness to continue. (At the end of the day, I just want you all to be happy) 

If you’ve ever been in this situation, do they still manage to make you smile even if they are the same reason for why you cry? Although yes they do cause you happiness still, why let them make you do something so sad as cry? Nobody deserves to cry, not even a beautiful person like yourself. Keep that in mind when they are the reason you’re sitting on your bed crying into your pillow. (I really don’t think we should let this happen to us, we deserve every positive emotion, not a negative one such as crying for them. You don’t deserve that) 

I found this quote and it really stood out for me. “It’s better to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone” although you may say that it’s not good to be unhappy alone, at least you can work on yourself to enable you to feel better and more positive, alone. You can start learning how to love yourself again, alone. If you’re with someone who is dragging you down with negativity, cut the ties and burst out with positivity (it is there to be found if we simply look for it) 

Please please don’t let someone change who you are. If you are shining with kindness, don’t let anyone (no matter how great they are) burn out your light. We were all born with a gift, and with something to offer this world, don’t let anybody take that away from you. Do not change for anyone.  Nobody is ever that special, not if it means you have to change your beautiful self, for them. (Keep that in mind) 

 
   
 
Here is a few photos to get you thinking (and to get you smiling) I hope you have taken something from this. 

I better go, but I hope this has helped at least a few of you. You are all so lovely, you only deserve the best so don’t settle for any less. 

Lots of love,

Asha 

Fall down 7 times, stand up eight.

It’s yet another one of those days. You get out of bed, not feeling great and wonder how you are going to get through yet another one of these days. We all have a day where we feel low and unhappy and just a bit miserable. What I am trying to say is that it’s okay to not always be okay. When times seem tough and you’re feeling a bit rough, know that it won’t last forever! The storm will pass.

I know a lot of people that are going through a series of situations that make their life difficult. Their feelings and emotions towards what they’ve going through remains and they tend t feel as if nothing is going to change. I promise you…of course it will!

Now, are you having a rough day? Put your hand over your heart. Do you feel that? It’s your heart and it’s called purpose. You’re alive for a reason. Please don’t give up.

There are many things that you can do to help you feel that little bit better. 1) People. They are a great thing to have around you for when you most need it. Whatever you are feeling, I feel that they key element to happiness is friends. 2) A good attitude towards things. What is the point in looking at things negatively? When rain pours onto your car windscreen, do you look through the rain to see the road? No. You wipe away the rain (or in this case, the negativity) so that you can see things better. This can be applied to a positive perspective. 3) Recognising the beauty in yourself. When you feel bad about things, your self esteem tends to be effected as well. Why not help yourself improve that by convincing yourself of your worth and they beauty that you most certainly do possess. I try and tell myself that “I am beautifully and wonderfully made” to boost that self esteem of mine. Why not find your own quote to use and tell it to yourself each and every day? You won’t believe as to how much it’ll help you.

If you are going through something at the moment and you are struggling, I tell you..YOU ARE DOING WELL AND THINGS WILL GET BETTER. All of us have hard times and are convinced that things are not going to be sorted out, I promise you they will. It just takes time, perseverance, support from others and a little bit of a positive attitude. Although things do pass,  do not settle for anything. If something is on your mind and is truly bothering you, please do something about it. Is it a school issue? Make a teacher or parent aware. Is it a home issue? Confide in friends or members of the family. If it’s a personal problem, please take advantage of the many things available for you. Friends, teachers, family, websites, charities etc. Please help yourself.

Whatever emotion you are feeling, I truly do hope that some sort of happiness is in there. You are a beautiful human being and deserve only the best. Things will get better, I promise. Please stay strong and please remind yourself of the amazing things that you have going for you!

My Psychology teacher said something today that really stood out for me. She said how people my age are like cookie dough. We aren’t fully baked yet (Because we are only young) so things are difficult to pursue. The expression just stood out for me. I hope you enjoyed it as much as I did!

Now, much love and keep smiling lovely people,

Asha

Please, embrace your beauty! 

Be your own kind of beautiful. Did you know that imperfection is beautiful? I think that we all possess such terrific things, such as beauty! Whether you see yourself as beautiful or not, I believe that we all shine with complete and utter perfection in our own individual way. 

I don’t know whether you’ve had this, but for many years you convinced yourself that you were nothing but “ugly” “vile” “a mess” “unattractive” and so on. You look in the mirror and wonder who the heck would go for you. Now I tell you, I myself have felt like this before. I used to think that I wasn’t good enough because I wasn’t the skinniest or the prettiest but who’s perfect? Nobody. We all have our flaws and imperfections, but when we realise their beauty rather than their ugliness, that is when our flaws are a blessing to us rather than a thing to stress about. 

We all come in shapes and sizes. Some are bigger than others, but some are smaller than others. Why should that be judged when we are all our own person? I am so glad that I have learnt to accept myself and my body because for many years I didn’t, and looking at yourself in disbelief at what you had is something that is truly saddening. The day when everyone, both guys and girls see the light and realise their true beauty, is the day where I am most happy. 

So you have green eyes when the girl in your class has blue? So what that girl has long hair whereas you own short hair? And so what if they have something that you don’t? We are all beautiful and we all shine bright, realising your glow is when you really start to shine. 

People that know me know that I don’t wear much makeup, when other girls I know do, whatever decision someone makes to themselves is up to them. I think though that beauty isn’t makeup and beauty isn’t an item you wear, instead beauty is YOU and beauty is what we all resemble. Try and see that when you look down on something that you have which you don’t like, think positive rather than negative. 

My half sister taught me something a couple of years ago. I told her about how I didn’t like my legs and I didn’t like my stomach. She nodded and said “have you ever looked in the mirror, at those particular parts and imagined not having them? As if you could take them away? And I thought about how odd that would be. My point is, imagine not having your stomach or your legs? How greatly inconvenient and terrible would that be? That’s why I feel we should embrace ourselves rather than drag ourselves down. 

“True beauty is born through our actions and aspirations and in the kindness we offer to others. Beauty should not be culturally relevant. It should be universal” now did I tell you how amazingly beautiful I felt when I fed the homeless? Or when I helped out a dear friend when she most needed help and supoort? Or even when I smile at the dark sad faces that walk the pavements? Beauty is not all about what looks you behold, it’s also about what actions you’re willing to do and what love you’re prepared to share with this earth.  

When other people call you beautiful, listen to it and tell yourself that. I ensure that I smile and love myself every single day. If you can’t love or accept yourself, how can you expect anyone else to? 

In this world, I truly believe that we are destined to find someone who will love and protect us for as long as we live. Whether you find that person when you’re 16, 26, 36 etc I believe they are out there. And that person will convince you that you are special, and beautiful and worth the world to them. You may not feel worthy to this world sometimes, but to some people, you are their world. Bear that in mind when you don’t feel good enough. WE ARE ALL SIMPLY BEAUTIFUL.

To the people out there who feel “thin” or feel “fat” I assure you, you are amazingly beautiful and will be someone’s everything one day. Stop worrying about what you have to loose, and start focusing on what you have to gain- confidence. 

Now I better go but guys, your smiles are the paradise. 

Much love and stay beautiful, 

Asha