Does anyone else think about time? The time you ignore someone or the time you let pass without realizing what is actually happening?
As individuals, we can be so determined on holding a grudge, letting something play out without even thinking about the time we are wasting. Why do we fall out with people and let things go on for such a long space of time?
Life is so short. I mean SO short. One day we could be going through life in our normal routine without even imagining what is just around the corner. I have heard about too many people who haven’t spoken to their fathers or mothers or friends and just when it seems like the right time to start thinking about reconciliation, their time is up. I have heard about too many people who regret how long they held a grudge for,or cut someone out of their lives and then finally realized it’s been going on for years.
Why don’t we fix things? Why don’t we simply let things go and be the bigger person to sort out a relationship? To sort out a feud that doesn’t really deserve all this wasted time? Why are you ignoring your sibling for example when you are missing out on so many things? As you cut them out of your life, blocking them on social media and cutting their existence out of your life when you haven’t even been around to hear about their achievements, their heartaches and their memories they’ve made.
I once knew a little girl. A little girl who loved her grandad. A girl who played with her toys and a girl who laughed at his jokes. One day, when the mother of the girl and the man developed an argument. An argument that caused so much pain and hassle and confusion. Without even thinking about fixing it, one blocked the other. One cut the other out of her and the little girls life. The girl no longer knew her grandad. The girl didn’t laugh at his jokes and the girl didn’t see his smile that lay on his face. Before they knew it, over a year had passed and instead of that being a reminder of how much time has been wasted, the feud continued. The individuals couldn’t speak to one another and the argument wasn’t resolved. How sad is it that the little girl has to suffer and miss out on seeing her relative just because of a row caused by miscommunication and confusion. Why don’t two people fix things before they get any worse?
Someone else saw the girl. The girl had grown up and the family had missed out on so much of the little girls growing up. She no longer had a positive, strong bond with the other part of the family and the girl knew of nothing that had caused people to be cut out of her life.
What I am saying here is to try and forget of something silly that’s happened. We don’t get a dress rehearsal in this life. It is live and it is short. When a row occurs and both people assume they are right, do the right thing by each other and the people who are effected by this argument and make up. Don’t drag something out just because you are sure you are in the right. Don’t allow someone to be cut out of other people’s life just because you feel too stubborn or proud to make it up with them. Do the right right. If not for you, but for the children or the relatives that are suffering.
I know a lot of people hang onto things that were said or actions that were committed that maybe weren’t right, however doesn’t it matter how much time can be wasted on a silly argument? Talk. Sort things out. Think about other people and what they could want, or need. Don’t let your feelings get in the way that brcause you are hanging onto something, or listening to something that’s been said. I can’t tell you how short our lives can be and how much regret can be developed by if something sudden were to happen and you hadn’t seen or talked to this person in too long of a time period. For the sake of yourself, others and the actual individual, do the correct thing.
Until next time,