Words are empty

Sometimes, when we hear the words “I love you” and “I wont hurt you”, we believe exactly what we hear. We convince ourselves that although they may not have the best reputation or have the best past, we assure ourselves that the things they do say is the truth.

We end up getting hurt. We fall harder and harder because we don’t think they would be capable of hurting us because of the things they said. We are blind to their flaws and the imperfections. I believe that unless they show you what they mean as well as just using empty words, we never really know what they mean and what they don’t mean.

If someone loves you, I think they will prove it through actions rather than words alone. If somebody says they love you and care for you, they will show you. I think the expression “Actions speak louder than words” is very important in relation to this topic. Words can mean nothing when you don’t show someone how you really feel. If one person says they care for you, ask yourself whether they show you that. Do they kiss you on the forehead? Do they care for you whilst they are unwell? Do they hold you tenderly when you need it? Are the sensitive, careful actions there? Do they show you their feelings as well as telling you?

I feel that so many expressions are thrown around nowadays where the true meanings aren’t really thought of anymore. For example, when people say how much they love someone, do they really mean it to the person they are saying it too? Will the person believe your empty words if you have no intention of showing them how you really feel? Don’t hurt a person with your empty words just because you feel it will suit yourself to say them. You may end up saying something that you have no intention of meaning to the person who believes every word you say and takes it seriously and as a result, gets hurt. You cant even believe to imagine how much words can hurt when there is no meaning behind it.

If you are a person who is in a relationship with another person and you say lots of things that you do not believe in yourself, the other person may consume every word and hold onto it tenderly and lovingly. When one person spits out words like poison, another sucks in words like a heavenly taste. Do not say something to someone who will believe what comes out your mouth so seriously but will make you fall so hard. Do not hurt somebody just for your own personal gain.

People who believe in love and hold out for love will most likely believe in every word someone says if that person means a lot to them. One person may see joy and happiness in the pupils of their eyes yet another may see lust and emptiness. Don’t say something you don’t mean because your meaningless sentences may hurt another more than you know.

I hope you all like my Autumn cover background on my blog post. I felt my picture needed more of a change to match the season we are currently in. I hope everyone is feeling happy and contempt. If any of you have any suggestions on future blog post topics, please let me know as i would love to hear your ideas!

Until next time,

Asha

Coping with the pressure…

Have you done it yet? How are things going? Do you think you can get it done today? I don’t think your personal statement is done. Why isn’t everything done yet?

Pressure pressure pressure. When you think everything is finally done, you soon realise its only just the start. This is me talking about college. I have recently started my second year of college and I will be honest with you, it is hard. If there’s no homework to be doing, there’s always going to be extra revision or coursework that keeps you on your toes. Although it can be productive, it can also be really hard to keep on top of it.

Today was the UCAS deadline. I don’t know how many people felt about today but I can understand how much pressure it can be by ensuring your personal statement is enough as well as making sure you have five universities to apply for, as well as the course. If that isn’t enough pressure, I don’t know what is. There is so much to think about when it comes to university. It takes a lot of time and effort to choose a university you are potentially going to go to for three to four years and spend thousands of pounds. I feel like that because it is such a big decision, it can stress a lot of teenagers out who are being put in that position.

Where do I go to university? Am I picking the right course? Shall I apply here? Is my personal statement good enough? The whole process in applying for university is just so stressful because it is all dependant on your future. When you do finally get through the process, it is then all dependant on the grades you get at the end of the year. Why is the education process so stressful? Why is applying to university making people feel run down and unwell and mentally tired?

My advice to you for those who are still to apply in the future or those who are going through it at the moment to try and take control. Get your personal statement done as soon as possible. The sooner you start it, the sooner it is finished and can be sent off. Nobody expects you to do anything less than to try your best. If you do all you can to aim towards success, you will be proud of yourself for all the effort you have put in. I know the whole process to get to university can be dreadful and I know it can make you feel confused about what your future is going to be like but I assure you, things will work out for you!

If you are getting really stressed about your situation, remember there are teachers and staff who can help you with the stress and give you support. For me, I took support from those at college who helped me complete my personal statement. I redid it a few times and changed quite a lot, but it is finally done and sent off. Concerning the courses and universities, visit the open days that they will have. There will be opportunities to visit your possible university and this can be so so helpful. For the ones that you like and they have the course you would like to do, look into it for further information and then you can consider it to be one of your choices. You can just do your best and that’s all you are expected to do.

Support will always be around. Friends, family and college staff will be around to give you guidance. Do not feel alone.

Until next time,

Asha

Leave a smile on that face!

There can be many moments in our life that feel as though life is dragging us down. We become under the weather, remain disappointed on why Donald Trump has won or even towards a problem in our life that has meant we are not feeling our best. Maybe your home situation isn’t the best or maybe you have fallen out with a friend. Whatever happens, there is always going to be something that is going right in your life. No matter how small or how big the positive aspect is, it is going to be there.

I once knew a girl. Someone who went through a lot. Her tiara was falling and her smile was fading. She didn’t sparkle as much as she used to and she no longer filled the room with a bright light. The light inside her had gone out like a flame. It was so sad to see. She looked at the negatives rather than the positives and her life just seemed to be filled with this black darkness. When things seemed to just be getting worse, she looked. Looked at the little bows of light that floated around her darkness. She grabbed the positivity with both hands and felt the positivity fill her body. Sometimes, when all you can see is darkness, it can be helpful to push the dark clouds aside in order to see the light seep through the clouds.

When there are so many things going wrong in your life, it can be hard to see what is actually going right. When you feel weak and run down by the bad things in life that are dragging you down, pull yourself up towards the light.

Look at what is going well for you. Look at the people around you that love you. Look at the job you may have that is going well. Look at the friends who are super supportive towards you. Whatever looks as though it is going well, take the positives by both hands and treasure it. You are always going to have something that someone else doesn’t have.

A positive attitude will lead to positive outcomes. If you look towards completely something and journeying through it positivity, the outcome will also be a positive one. At the end of the day, if you believe that you can then you are halfway there! The biggest obstacle to overcome is the belief that you have in yourself and convincing yourself that you can do it.

Don’t worry lovely people, there is one more blog post in store for you! It is on its way!

Until next time (Which is very soon!)

Asha