At the shelter, I died today.

“I died today. You got tired of me and took me to the shelter. They were overcrowded and I drew an unlucky number. I am in a black plastic bag in a landfill now. Some other puppy will get the barely used leash you left. My collar was dirty and too small, but the lady took it off before she sent me to the Rainbow Bridge . Would I still be at home if I hadn’t chewed your shoe? I didn’t know what it was, but it was leather, and it was on the floor. I was just playing. You forgot to get puppy toys. Would I still be at home if I had been housebroken? Rubbing my nose in what I did only made me ashamed that I had to go at all. There are books and obedience teachers that would have taught you how to teach me to go to the door. Would I still be at home if I hadn’t brought fleas into the house? Without anti-flea medicine, I couldn’t get them off of me after you left me in the yard for days. Would I still be at home if I hadn’t barked? I was only saying, “I’m scared, I’m lonely, I’m here, I’m here! I want to be your best friend.” Would I still be at home if I had made you happy? Hitting me didn’t make me learn how. Would I still be at home if you had taken the time to care for me and to teach manners to me? You didn’t pay attention to me after the first week or so, but I spent all my time waiting for you to love me. I died today. Love, Your Puppy”

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I don’t know if you have seen this on some sort of social media, and I know how hard this is to read and look at but, it is happening. It is going on around us, but is yet being blocked out. Why are we not tackling this and making it public? Innocent dogs are being thrown away like rubbish, and nothing is being done about it.

Their life begins. A litter of puppies are brought into the world and sold as quickly as anything. They are taken home and told how beautiful and cute they are and they are kept as pets. All of a sudden however, they seem to become boring and people decide to get rid of them. “Free to a good home” is all over Facebook and a picture of a helpless, innocent dog stares back at us as we flick through our newsfeed. If this doesn’t work, they are also left for someone to find or abandoned. I know this happens because my black Labrador, Flynn was tied up outside Argos at around nine months old for someone to find and take to White House Kennels. How wicked must someone be to tie a scared puppy up on a lamp post to simply leave and get rid of. It can be understood more if a person wishes to give away a dog if they become severely allergic or the dog has done something extremely bad then a new home is sometimes essential, but what if the dog has done nothing wrong? What if it is just the family becoming bored of their latest purchase? Now that the novelty has worn off and they have had enough now? What then?

I like to think that dogs are for life, not just for Christmas. If you want a pet, you need to be ready for a pet. I see it like having a child. You are going to have this animal for a long time so you need to be prepared. I don’t get these people who simply get rid of their pets after becoming bored, they fail to find a new home so are taken to a kennel and are soon killed due to the kennels losing room. I know there can be issues with space but how can people kill innocent animals? When all they want is a happy life with a happy family? A dog loves you more than it loves itself and it proves that to you. Think carefully before choosing a pet.

Also, why are we breeding animals more and more and buying fresh litters when there are plenty of dogs that are desperate for a new home as they sit in their cold, small cage wishing for a better life? Why do we not rescue and care for the older, in most cases mistreated animals more? Is it because these animals are not “cute” and as young as the puppies you could buy off breeders? Is it because sometimes these dogs in the kennels can require a bit more attention from all the heartache and abuse they have endured from their previous home? Why are we not thinking of all the animals in kennels that are much more in need of a home than new puppies? Why do we not help the older ones who could really do with a happy home and family?

Both my dogs were rescued. My first dog, Molly who is a liver coloured staffy is one of the most amazing animals I have ever met. Her temperament is beyond perfect and she gives you so much love. I cant tell you how great she is when I am feeling low or upset. She will come over and kiss me and hug me to ensure I am okay. They love you more than themselves I assure you. She is coming up to five and a half now and I couldn’t love her more if I tried. She is the kind of dog you never regret having. You don’t mind when they are unwell and keep you up or pull you on their lead because at the end of the day, they are a part of the family and I love her for being her.

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Here is my beautiful dog that I am so glad has a happy home to live in. She has a family who love her. She makes me wonder why you would get rid of a dog without any thought. She is my perfect rescue dog.

I have also mentioned Flynn who we rescued around two years ago. He was still a puppy when we found him at the kennels and he was clearly shaken up by his previous owners. He pulled on his lead and jumped up and barked too loudly sometimes but I wouldn’t change him for the world. He reminds me of some of the horrid people in this world who would leave a terrified dog in the cold on a lead by a lamp post for hours before someone helped him. He was hard work but he was so worth it. I love him to pieces and love that he is truly happy now in this home with our family. He is a part of the family now. He actually celebrated his third birthday on Christmas day. Happy birthday, Flynn! flynn-happy-bday

Now before you decide on buying a pet, please think of the innocent animals in kennels that could really do with a warm home. The older dogs would love nothing more than calling somewhere their home. As they become older, it can be harder to live in a cage. Please, try and help.

I hope everyone had a lovely Christmas! You all deserve the best! Merry Christmas!

Until next time,

Asha

 

 

Merry Christmas!!!

Hello everyone! Merry Christmas to you all! I really hope your day is lovely and filled with smiles, laughter and happiness! I feel like this day of celebrating Christmas is forgotten about nowadays for treasuring loved ones and spending the time in company of family and friends who mean a lot to us! 

When this time of the year comes around, people are frantic to buy Christmas presents, children are excited for the arrival of Santa but most of us are happy to have a day of quality time! 

Think about those who aren’t so fortunate. Those who may be homeless with nobody to turn to or the elderly who don’t have many people left, or even ordinary people like us that don’t have anybody. They sit alone at Christmas with nobody to smile with or have a Christmas dinner with. They are alone. Why doesn’t this remind us how lucky we are? 

When Christmas comes around, like today, why don’t we try and appreciate those a bit more who are our family and friends. Why don’t we hug them tighter this Christmas and thank them that little bit more this Christmas? Why don’t we just appreciate the precious time we have with our loved ones. 

I hope everyone eats too much turkey and stuffing and gets all the things they want! Most importantly, I hope the time is spent with the ones we love and care about. Time like this is short and so so precious, so treasure it. 

All my love, and MERRY CHRISTMAS!!

Asha 

We are like birds, we fly away too.

Have you ever seen a bird? How they fly off to different destinations? How they sprout their wings and fly off to somewhere? I find that some people are like the birds, flying off and moving on. It isn’t always easy though.

It can be hard to let people go. When the path they are on bends to the left and takes them on a different journey, we can feel quite upset that they are leaving. Having a relationship with someone that you think you will have for a lifetime, and they decide to take an alternative route. Sometimes, taking the time out to catch up by phone calls or text messages can keep your relationship strong, but sometimes the distance is too much.

Each of us has a life to lead. We all have futures to look forward to and places to go. We can become so obsessed on other people and making the effort with them, that our own path is blurred and forgotten about. Sometimes, it can help to take a step back and realise who and what is important. I see effort like a two way street, where both parties make the effort, it comes to the point when you need to take a moment to see if it is both people making an effort, and if it is not, what effect just one person’s effort is having. Is it worth it? Is it getting you anywhere? Do you feel as though it is working?

Some people are happy enough to be focusing on their own lives and what happens in it that they can seem to forget you. Some people’s paths are just for the one person and changes people. If we are running after them, trying to follow this path that we are not destined to walk on, when does it become enough?

I can assume that most of us have gone through losing someone or feeling as though things change when people do or go away. It can be so hard to continue having the same relationship. We, as individuals can try but it isn’t always as easy as that.

My only advice to you would be to think about it. Are both parties making the effort? Is the relationship the same even when things change? Are you happy with how it is? If you are not, have you spoken up and been honest? Has that got you anywhere? We have our own lives to lead, so do not lose your own path in order to follow someone else’s. It isn’t always worth it.

I hope everyone is ready for a lovely Christmas with beautiful people around them. We all deserve only the best in this festive period.

Until next time,

Asha

Treasuring our loved ones on Christmas! 

Some people think of the presents. Some think of the food. Some think of the festive season, but isn’t the most remarkable thing about Christmas the people? The family time that is spent together. When everyone is around the table for the Christmas meal, laughing and chatting as the gorgeous day goes on. When crackers are pulled and jokes are made and hats are worn, there’s no better time to spend family time. 

I think of the people who do not have anybody this Christmas. The elderly who sit alone on Christmas or the homeless who sit stranded on the streets. Some people dread the day and take it for granted, why don’t we try and appreciate what we have waiting for us at home that other people in this world could only dream of? 

When we see children excited about all the presents they are going to get, I feel as though this is thought about more now than the family closeness itself. We think about whether everyone’s got everything on our list or whether we are going to like what we receive, is it time now to really pull together our parents or siblings or grandparents and treasure the time we have with them on this special day.

So as this Christmas Day draws closer with not long to go, why not wear a beautiful smile and look forward to the day spent with our loved ones with everyone sat around a table eating their dinner with quality time spent all together? Why don’t we treasure the precious time we have with everyone? 

I just thought this festive period should be good for the people. Our family and friends who we love so very much. When things seem down, just think of what you have that others don’t. Never take anything for granted. 

I hope everyone has a lovely Christmas spent with lovely people. Enjoy every minute of it. Hug everyone that much tighter and smile that much brighter on Christmas. 

Until next time, and Merry Christmas!!

Asha 

Feeling like a failure

Great. I got an E again. Oh look, this time I got a U. But I worked really hard for this, how can I do any better?

This is how I feel right now. I am in my second year of A levels and it is so much harder. You can try so hard on a test and put all your effort into it and yet still come out with an E. You can your all into something to get a grade that no way reflects that. It can be difficult  to receiving grades that you don’t want and that do not reflect you and your hard work.

If you are in this situation, why not try and find out what is happening. Speak to your teacher and find out how you can make it better. I know how frustrating it is to consistently get the grades you do not want and feel as though you couldn’t of tried any better. Remember that although you may be feeling low on not doing as well as you’d like, do not let it define you. Grades do not make you, you. Each of us are fantastic individuals and we are all so great in what we do. Just let this motivate you to understand what things you need to alter and stay determined. You are going to be successful and you are going to get to where you want to be. Just see what you need to do and let these grades push you to do better.

If you are feeling like a failure in a different aspect, such as a job or just generally, remember that as individuals, we can only try our best. If there is something you are not doing right, then speak to someone who know what you need to do and ensure that you understand what to do. I know how hard it can be to feel as though there is no more you can do when you are already giving it you all. We all possess skills and traits that are unique to us. When we are told that one thing we do isn’t done enough or it isn’t right, there will always be someone that doesn’t have this trait and wishes they could.

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I thought this feeling totally reflected how we feel sometimes. When something isn’t getting any better or you have tried something again and again only to remain at square one, we tend to want to give up. Give up on trying or caring and we just want to do nothing for a few days. We feel as though we are drained from the constant trying and trying only to remain in the same place. Sometimes, yes we do need a break but it can also be the time to ask for help and guidance to move forwards. Accept the help that we have around us.

 

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Remember my darlings, things do get better. We just sometimes need to grab a bit of help from others. You won’t be stuck in the same place forever.

Until next time,

Asha

 

Keeping warm this winter

I walk past them. You walk past them. “Sorry I don’t have any change” or “sorry I don’t wish to give you anything” as we are on our way back to our warm home with our family. As it gets colder this winter, we resort happily back to our homes, whilst the poor homeless people remain outside cold and alone with nowhere to call home.

I am not saying that all homeless people are innocent as sometimes, some may argue that the circumstances are not totally genuine however the majority of people who huddle behind those shop windows freezing in the cold deserve to receive help. Help to have somewhere warm to go, somewhere to call home and fulfilling something where they can be truly happy with.

I find it absolutely absurd that we are in 2016 and still having to see and walk past endless amounts of people on the street who are fed up of living this way. Why is money being wasted in other things in the world when there is the priority of taking all these people off the street?

Did you hear about that homeless individual who froze to death this week in Birmingham when we had our coldest night this winter hitting below freezing? I ask you this, why is the big ben being renovated and closed for a couple of years which is costing the public millions and billions of pounds and why is Buckingham palace being decorated and updated, also costing millions and billions of pounds when there are countless amount of individuals freezing themselves on the streets of Britain? Why do we not have more to give the people who deserve better? Why is there nowhere for them to go to keep warm? Why are there not more people out there to help those in need? Why is this still happening? What is going on?

I walk to college or to work and I see them .With their blankets tucked around them and their hats and gloves on, shivering and swaying like the wind in an attempt to keep warm. As the public, we don’t always stop. We may be in a hurry as we might be late for something or we may not be feeling generous but how many people must these homeless people see walk past until one finally decides to stop? Why isn’t funding being put into helping keep the homeless warm this winter? Why isn’t getting all the homeless off the streets a priority? I ask you, just what is going on?

Did you know that the government want to fine people who are homeless, living on the streets up to £1000? Why is the government deteriorating the situation by fining the an extortionate amount of money that by the way, they don’t have when instead they could be helping these people to receive warmth and a home and then a job? Surely the government must understand that these people who are sleeping rough struggle to buy food and water let alone up to one thousand pounds. What are they thinking?

Did you also know that the Foodbank, who provides food to those people considered to be in a condition of living in poverty, are currently being used at record high. “Latest figures published by The Trussell Trust today show that foodbank use remains at record levels, rising two percent on last year. 1,109,309 three day emergency food supplies were provided to people in crisis by the charity’s network of 424 foodbanks in the 2015/16 financial year, compared to 1,084,604 in 2014/15. Of this number, 415,866 went to children. This is a measure of volume rather than unique users, and on average, people needed two foodbank referrals in the last year” Instead of valuable money being wasted, why not use it on the foodbank to decrease the numbers of British people using this support when they are at the point where they struggle to feed their family?

When you are walking through the high street and you see those people who are homeless and shivering, remember how lucky you are to go home to a warm house. If you do have a spare minute or two or you have some spare change, why not make a difference and help someone to be fed or watered? There’s no greater feeling than knowing you have fed someone meaning they wont go hungry.

I am not saying that all homeless people are genuine because some people are not, but so many are and need our help. We as a community should pull together to ensure these people are kept as looked after as possible this Christmas.

If anyone has any ideas on what I can write next, get in contact with me! I would love to hear from you.

Until next time,

Asha