How to deal with being disliked by someone

Going through life, we meet so many different people who become a part of our life. They may be there when we meet our first love or when family issues arise. Friends can be there for you through a lot. However, what happens when some people don’t like you? I have found that some people just don’t take to me and do not want to talk to me. Sometimes there may be a reason but other times, it can be because you have something they don’t have or they just don’t seem to like you. It is okay not to be liked by everyone, that can almost be impossible. My advice is that as long as you are happy, it shouldn’t matter whether you are liked by everyone or not. I have a handful of friends who I love with all my heart, and they are the people that I hold close to me and keep in my life. As long as I have them in my life, I don’t care whether that girl who I never really spoke to dislikes me.

In life, people can get jealous for many different reasons. You may have said something before and they didn’t like you so therefore hold it against you as a grudge. You may have upset or angered them for doing something without knowing or maybe they just didn’t have a good first impression. But I have learnt that not everyone can like me in life because there is always going to be people that dislike you for one reason or another. Don’t let it affect you so much because at the end of the day, the real friends and family members will love you for you and will be a big part of your life. I have finally realised that not everyone will like me for being me and they will ignore me. That is how it is I guess because it is hard to be liked by everyone.

I have been at school and college before and smiled at people who I thought were my friends and they just blanked me and ignored me. It is upsetting because it isn’t always clear what they are upset about and what you are supposed to have done, but sometimes you need to shake it off and let it go because otherwise you will dwell on it forever and wonder why. Why don’t they like me? Why did they ignore me? Why why why? Sometimes, that question can never be answered.

We will come across a lot of people in life that will make us smile and laugh and become our best friends. They are the type of people who you should treasure and hold onto. Those are the friends who will be loyal and kind and love you for you. On the other hand, there will also be those type of people who you meet once and begin to ignore you and just simply don’t take to you. Don’t always take it personally because there are some people who just don’t like you. Those people aren’t needed in your life when you have a great group of friends around you.

I have the best of friends around me who I adore and love with all my heart. They are the people who make my life so positive and lovely. Cling onto the great friends you have and block out the type of people that cause unnecessary drama and are negative people in your life. Do not allow them to pull you down. Hold onto the people that make you smile, not cry.

So in conclusion, not everyone wants to be your friend. Not everyone will like you and not everyone will take to you. I know this is hard for some people who want to be liked by everyone but if they continue to ignore you and treat you badly, do not allow that type of negativity in your life. It is completely unneeded.

Remember to carry on smiling and holding onto those good people in your life. Ignore the negative aspects that come up in your life. They are not needed. Don’t allow it to pull you down.

Until next time,

Asha

 

Driving…don’t give up!

Driving can be a big thing. When we are trying to learn to drive, we can become both excited and stressed through getting ready for a test. It can be hard to remember everything and be good when you are also trying to learn. To cut it short, driving can be hard. Some people take to it really easily and pass their test in no time and others need a bit more time. Whatever kind of person you are, keep at it!

I started learning how to drive back in July and it wasn’t easy. I wasn’t what you would call a “natural” driver. I didn’t take to it well, neither did I enjoy it at first because I just found it so hard to do well and be good. I didn’t adjust to the pedals well nor was it smooth. I am not going to lie, I really struggled on my journey to driving. I cried a lot and struggled a lot to grasp the whole driving thing. I remember driving and getting frustrated that I couldn’t do a reverse around a corner or struggling because I couldn’t do a proper hill start on a hill. Now I have overcome my fear of the hills and I no longer panic as much and I can do a reverse around a corner…that’s what I even got on my test and I did it! I got there and I passed my driving test! It is all about perseverance and determination. if this is you, keep going.

To those that are currently learning to drive or who are working towards a test, please try and believe in yourself. If you are driving well through your lessons with your driving instructor, try and drive exactly the same way as you normally do. Remember, the examiners that come out of that room are there to make sure you are going to be safe and that you are ready to be on the road. That road is a scary place so you got to be ready. I wasn’t ready until I passed third time and I am over the moon! Third time lucky!

When I am driving now, I cant believe that I passed my test. If you had told me that I would be driving…on my own at this time I wouldn’t of believed you! It has been a long journey to get to where I am now but I got there and I am really happy now with where I am.

My advice would be to not panic. Take as many deep breaths as you can and try and drive at your best. As long as you are safe when you are out on the road and you are careful, you will be fine to drive.

Now many of you have asked about the driving test. It is not as scary as its made out to be, I think anyway. It is just normal individuals who sit in your car with you to watch you drive to ensure your driving is safe and that you are safe enough to be on the road. They are not there to catch you out and make you fail, they just want to know you are ready. Now that I look back on it, I am glad that I didn’t pass until the third time because I now realise I wasn’t safe enough to be on the road until my third time and through failing, I learnt so much. I learnt how to parallel park and cope well in a stressful situation which I feel has made me a much better and safer driver. If you are meant to be out on the road, you will pass. But like me, you may need a little bit of time to tweek a few things. I know it is upsetting, I was gutted. However the time will come when you are ready. It is one of the greatest feelings when you pass.

Stay safe and be careful. If anyone is starting to learn to drive, keep at it and good luck for your test! If you are coming to a test, do not panic and drive as you do normally. They are just seeing whether you are safe. Good luck everyone! Perseverance is the key!

Until next time,

Asha