Sometimes it can be difficult to deal with change. People move on, people move away, things happen which can be unexpected and cause things to be really weird but yet we are told to get on with it and deal with what happens. I find that it can be hard to drift apart from people who we once called our best friends and make unlikely bonds with those who were once strangers. Change can be tough.
I miss the people who used to be in my life. The type of people who no longer made any effort or put other things first and left you in the lurch. It can be hard to cut ties with people who once meant the world to us but remember, friends are everywhere. As one friendship may wither, another may blossom.
From coming to university, I have sadly lost contact with quite a few people and it can be sad. You miss the type of people who made you laugh, you shared memories with and called your closest friends, but as sad as it is, friends do come and go. Although I have lost people in my life, I have also made new friends along my journey. It can be hard, but I feel that everything happens for a reason.
However on the other hand, not keeping in touch with some people and drifting apart due to being at uni for example, doesn’t mean that a friendship is gone. I speak to quite a few people after ages due to being busy, and the friendship is exactly the same. It is like no time has passed which can be so nice because they are the type of people you will stay friends with, even if it isn’t regular visits or communication. I have some friends who also go to uni and we both know how hard it is to phone and catch up so time can take hold, however when the time comes when we do catch up, it is so nice because nothing has changed. Some friendships are still going to be as they were before.
I feel that when some people drift apart from you, and are taken on different paths, it can be hard to accept. You start thinking “Why did they leave?” and “Is it my fault?” however I feel that some friendships do just stop because they are going on to other destinations and taking different routes to you so it does die out. I find that not everyone you loose is a loss. Some happen for a specific reason that you may not find out about straight away but it happens anyway.
It has been so nice to find people at university and make friends through there because there are so many ways to do it. You meet lovely people through your course, your flat, through clubs and societies, your halls site and through the uni itself. It can be so nice to get to know other people and form friendships there because sometimes you realise why other friendships had to wither away.
If you have drifted apart from someone and you don’t think it should of, and you are worried about it or missing them, try and get back in touch with them. See if it is still the same and whether or not there is still a friendship there left to salvage. I think if you make an effort with some people and put the time in, there are going to be people you can keep in your life and have as friends. Some friendships just need directing back to the same path as you. Guide it back and things could still be okay.
I just feel this was really important to address, because there are people out there who get worried about friendships and making new ones, or trying to save old ones so just need reminding that there are friends everywhere. Just be mindful that things could be happening for a reason.
Until next time,