Good and bad days.

Everyone knows what it’s like to have a good day. You wake up and feel good about yourself and the day ahead and you are on a high. Smiling and grinning at people and seeing every beautiful thing around you. You hear birds chirping and children laughing as you go about your day. You feel happy. Today is a good day.

Everyone knows what it’s like to have a bad day. You wake up and feel horrible about yourself. You feel fat. You feel ugly. You think that everything is going to go against you today. You get up and everything goes wrong. You spill a drink, you can’t get your trousers on and you just want to cry. Walking out of your house and you hear car horns blasting the air and raised voices. The rain get’s you wet and all you want is your bed.

Just a typical scenario of how a good day and bad day can go. We all have them. There can be times when it just doesn’t feel like your day and it can be really hard to experience a day like this. Sometimes I’ve had it when one things that’s said or done can make me want to burst into tears. There are days where we don’t feel okay, and don’t know why we feel down but it is something we all go through and is fine to feel this way. All we need at times like these are a hug and reassurance that things are going to be okay. Remember, it’s okay not to be okay.

I’m sure we can all recall a bad and good day. For example, on Tuesday my day was horrible. It was one of those days when everything was going wrong and I was super stressed. Although you try to stay calm, it can tend to result in you crying or breaking down. Once I had sorted out what I needed to do, I felt better and more able to carry on now things were looking up. I had finally sorted it and could go home. These days can occur to anyone, more to some people than others. If this type of day does happen to you, try and speak to someone and be honest. If there’s something on your mind or you feel stressed, tell them that. Let it all out. It’s surprising how much people can help you. If you don’t know what’s wrong with you and it’s just one of those days, try and ride it out but do things that make you happy. Watch a film, read or surround yourself with people you love and care for. Do something to put a smile on that lovely face of yours.

Sometimes, days can be really hard to handle and you feel as though you just want the next day to come, and some days are so good that you don’t want it to end. Try and do what makes you happy and look to what’s positive. You may not be having the best day but you’ve received a nice compliment or the weather’s nice out. Try and find something good about the day and hold onto it tight.

We’ve all been through a rubbish day and we’ve all been through a lovely one. Both need to be done to make you appreciate things more. Having a bad day can make you enjoy the good ones. Having a good day can make you feel as if you’re on a high. Learn from both types of days.

Always remember, it is okay not to be okay. Some days are better than others and some days are worse. Take what you can through these days and try and stay positive.

Until next time,

 

Asha

Dealing with new things and people in life.

Coming to university has taught me so many things. Meeting and adjusting to new people is a big part to my uni life and I feel it has changed me as a person.

When I look back on this year, I look at the wonderful people I have met and how independent I now am. It is weird looking back before uni when I didn’t do my own food shops or I didn’t pay for my own washing. Although these things can be big for some people, I feel it has taught me a lot. I now understand a lot more about the value for money and I now finally get the adult life. I now have to pay for boring things and I have to juggle lots of things. Saying this, I wouldn’t change it any other way.

Being at university, and in a flat with lots of different types of people, it can be tough. Some personalities may clash or people may not get on, but I feel people will come across different types of people throughout their whole life. If I didn’t experience this at uni, I would of had it in another part of my life. My advice would be; communication. This is such a big thing to do at the start. If you don’t like something or you have an issue, be honest with someone and just talk to them. Most times, someone will appreciate you saying something and will resolve the situation. The last resort tends to be involving someone else and getting their assistance. It can be very difficult living with people who do and say things you wouldn’t necessarily do yourself. At the start, step back and try and get to know the person. There can be times when the person is lovely at heart, and it is just getting used to it and adjusting. The start of uni is getting used to other people and being around people who are not like you.

If time goes on and things do not improve, it will come to the point when getting others involved and speaking out is all you’ve got. I have learnt that there will be people who you just can’t change. Some people will just stay as they are and are the type of people that you just need to tolerate. Coming to uni, I was so set on everything being clean and tidy and ensuring everyone liked me, but now I have had to adjust myself and realise that a bowl doesn’t need to be washed up straight away and that there are going to be people who simply don’t like me. I am okay with that now and I accept that.

University can throw so much at you like; New people, living alone, a job, uni work and it will take time to get used to these things. Although things can be hard and it can be hard to deal with at points, you will be okay. It is a massive thing to do and it will be challenging, but it will make you a better person. It will change you but in a good way.

I hope those who are at university currently have had a great year, got the grades you want and felt good about exams, however those who are aiming towards university or are soon going, have the time of your life. Go to as many social events as you can, get the work done in plenty of time, laugh as much as you can and go and meet loads of people. Go out there and enjoy because the first year at uni is the time that you will remember and treasure. This won’t happen again so make the most of it

Until next time,

 

Asha