Knowing more about anxiety.

Did you know that ‘in 2013, there were 8.2 million cases of anxiety in the UK’? Did you know that ‘approximately 30 percent – don’t seek help, are misdiagnosed, or don’t know they have issues with anxiety.’ I thought this would be interesting to write about and make awareness of because I know so many people who struggle with anxiety, in many different ways, and I feel it isn’t spoken enough in society. Why not talk about it so it’s no longer a taboo?

I personally, don’t struggle with this, but I’ve decided to do my appropriate research and take this topic on board so that I can hopefully help those out there. Even if it’s just one person, it means I’ve made a difference. For those out there who are affected by this, hang on in there lovely people.

By definition, anxiety is a number of things such as: ‘a nervous disorder marked by excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behaviour or panic attacks’ or ‘a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease about something with an uncertain outcome, or a ‘strong desire or concern to do something or for something to happen.’ I think this can be interpreted in a number of different ways and people can suffer from this in various situations. Some have this in social environments such as meeting new people or going to social events, performances like concerts or in sport, talking to authorities figures, dating, writing, using public restrooms or eating in front of others. There are so many different ways people can become anxious and I feel it needs more attention. I didn’t even know all these existed, but I am glad to be aware of them and I hope other people can be too.

Looking at my research, I found some tips to help manage anxiety. It’s quite cliché, but it recommends that you take deep breaths and take a moment out. I think this really helps because it puts you back into the present moment and brings you back to earth. It makes you take great attention to your breathing, meaning you can’t think of anything else. Try this if you are feeling anxious.

Another one is to maintain positivity. I think this is also important because you are able to deal with your anxiety with a much more positive mindset. If you are trying to deal with it but you are feeling low and doom and gloom, I think it will be much harder to manage then if you looked at the situation with a solution and a plan. It will be much easier to do if you think optimistically.

The most important one is to talk to someone. I completely get that it can be hard to finally talk to someone and be honest, but once you get to the point when you feel ready to let things out and take the weight off your shoulders, the better it’ll be for you. There is always someone out there who will listen. There will be someone who can help you sand support you. Once you do this, it will be a step in the right direction. There will be progression and there will be progress. Just you wait.

All these little tips won’t help everyone and there will still be some of you out there who will feel as though they need to try something else. The next step would be to talk to a doctor and get their advice. There are many strands from a doctor and I think this could help you too. When we get to a point when we know we need a little bit of help, that is when we can see what’s out there and take on board things that can make us feel better about it all. You’re a lovely brave person and you can do it. I know it.

If you need any support or any help, please make sure you confide in someone and go and get some help. There are lots of tips online and if that doesn’t work, there are doctors out there you can speak to and they can help you. Remember your beauty and your worth and know that you are loved.

Until next time,

Asha

Reality of adulthood.

As I’m getting older, I now realise that being an adult can be hard. The stress of money, socialising, workload etc and it seems to be racing around my head with so much going on and I feel like my brain isn’t big enough to cope with it all. I overthink everything and it all seems to just spin around in my mind. I think it gets to a point when you get to a certain age and then it all hits you. It is the reality of adulthood…ouch.

I’m making it all sound so doom and gloom! It really isn’t because there are so many things that work well as an adult. I love being able to drive, have control of my own money, live independently and have my own life. I do enjoy being an adult, but it doesn’t mean that it isn’t tough from time to time. I can feel as though I need a break sometimes so that I can manage everything in my head and organise it. It can be tough, but don’t worry you can do it!

If you think this is you, I would definitely say that you should try and balance it all. There is always going to be someone there who can help you manage it all, and who can relate to you. When I was younger, I used to see my mum and dad upset and stressed, and I never really understood it because I had no idea about the pressures of life. Now that I do, I feel that I now know the value of a food shop or a phone bill rather than just expecting my parents to pay for everything and then get moody if they say no. I never got it, until I became an adult myself and now I know how tough it can be.

Instead of crying and letting everything eat you up inside, thinking ‘How am I gonna pay for rent and that car insurance and how am I gonna afford that food shop?’ I would say just to sit down and break everything up into little pieces in order to work them out. For me, that’s the best way to do it and not stress myself out too much.

It can get to us all, and we can feel snowed under so that it can feel we are drowning in it all but try to find a way to organise everything so that it doesn’t snow you under and then you can enjoy the good parts of adulthood and everything it brings with it. Don’t stress or panic, it will all be okay lovely people.

Until next time,

Asha

How did 2018 go for you?

First of all, I just want to say Happy new year! I hope everyone had a great evening and welcomed the new year in with a glass of alcohol and surrounded by great people. I think it is the time to reflect on the year and be grateful for all the people you have in your life. The time to say thank you to your family and friends and neighbours. When I was doing the countdown last night, I looked around the room and thought ‘God I’m so lucky’ and I just hugged and kissed everyone as I said Happy new year. I am so appreciative of those who are present in my life. My parents, my friends, and my boyfriend. It’s great to have beautiful, genuine people standing by you as you go through life. You need that. I hope everyone had a great new year and enjoyed themselves. Whether that was going out, having a party or chilling at home, I hope It was good for you and you had fun!

When you look back on 2018, I feel you look at the good and bad things. For me, the year was a bit of a rollercoaster. There were times when I felt low and down and times when I felt on top of the world. I finished my first year of University and went into my second and found lovely people to add to my life. Summer came about and I worked at a Summer school and went on holiday to Spain! I worked and then moved into my new house with my university friends in September and throughout it all, I was with my boyfriend of now, over a year. It is lovely to have someone in your life and great to carry on with lovely friends. I see it as if you leave 2018 with the same friends and you’ve gone through the year with them consistently by your side then I think that shows you they are the friends you will have for a long long time! I also found this year that I got to know many more people and widen my social circle. It was great to get close to new people and go for coffee’s and drinks with them. I am very grateful for those people and look forward to getting to know them better once back at University.

Especially this year, I’ve realised that adulthood can get tough. Having to pay for rent, a car, a phone bill, food etc, it can be really hard to keep on top of it at times. I find myself getting stressed when everything builds up and I feel I’m struggling to cope with paying for everything. When socialising costs then crop up too, It can be tough to keep a hand on it because you end up having to stay in and miss out and stay at home. After realising this, I will now go into 2019 with a budget head on. I will ensure to stick to my weekly allowance as best I can and be more careful with my money. After working all Christmas, I will now have that to fall back on too if I need it as well as my loan. My advice if you are feeling the same? Work out a budgeting plan and try and stick to it as then you will have enough money to get through your term and you will have an upper hand on everything you need to pay for. Basically, you won’t run out.

I don’t think we should dwell on the things that didn’t go so well this past year because what’s the point of that? It won’t change anything so instead, I think it’s worth just reminiscing on everything and remembering it. Be aware of what’s happened and take it with you. When some things happened In the year that made me feel rubbish, I’d like to think I learnt from it and went away with the mindset that I’d not let it happen again. I want to take both the positive and negative things with me and be grateful for it all because I’m a big believer of ‘Everything happening for a reason.’ If it wasn’t meant to happen, it wouldn’t. I think there’s a meaning to anything that happens, so I will take that on board with me and use it as a learning curve.

For every bad thing that’s happened, I really hope you can think of more good things to counteract it. It’s never going to be an easy ride as something will always cloud over the light. Although at the time, it really upsets and stresses me out, I later ask myself why it happened and what it’s done to help me. If you’ve had a year that felt totally bad, I’m so sorry that it’s been that way and I really hope this upcoming year is better. Maybe this new year will be your year.

Enjoy your time off if you are off work at the moment, and my thoughts are with you if you are having to work throughout this period. I really hope you can have a break soon and chill out. Happy new year to you all and lots of love xxxx

Until next time,

Asha