Looking around you and being mindful.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about mental health and how it is all around us. They are people who are close to us who suffer from it, and we can have no idea. Some may be quiet, sad, paranoid or jumpy and we may not always associate it with anything. We may jump to conclusions or overthink it when really it’s people struggling and trying to deal with their problems. I thought it would be helpful to write about this so we know to be aware of it and mindful.

There’s a few people that are close to me that suffer. They can have good and bad days. They can be happy one minute, then sad the next. They may be finding it difficult to get out of bed or to eat or keep on top of everything. I think it’s really important that we all keep an open mind and an open ear and just keep an eye on the people around us and the people we love. If we think about it and maybe, see someone upset or distracted, ask how they are and if they need a chat. They may decline, but at least you’ve asked. They know the offers there and that they’re not alone.

I think one person’s presence can be enough sometimes. If you text someone, or check in on them, they know you are there for guidance and support and if they do need you, they will have the option to come to you. I don’t like to be too pushy and instead just send people a quick message checking in, or popping my head in the door and seeing how they are today. There are lots of things you can do to remind someone they are loved and looked after, and certainly not alone.

When I’m at university, or at work, I like to speak to people when I can and just see how they are. I like to be warm and welcoming and smiley, so that they may find it easier to talk to me and confide in me. I’ve had it before when I’ve bottled things up and it’s all built up inside me, so when I’ve let it out and been honest, it can make such a big difference. This may not always be the case and people may want to just keep it to themselves, but asking how they are and maybe giving them a smile or a hug can help them more than you think.

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At the end of the day, I am there for people because I would want them to do the same for me. I also know what it’s like to feel like you have nobody. Everyone has someone, and there will be people there with you, holding your hand and guiding you through, always.

Have a great day everyone! Hope you’re all doing well.

Until next time,

Asha

Is Valentines day overrated?

Hey you lovely bunch! Long time no see. I haven’t had much chance lately to write so sorry I haven’t posted in a while. I hope you’re all doing well and are feeling good in yourselves. What are you all up to today? Are you working? Having a movie day? Going out somewhere nice? Just the usual? I wanted to talk about this day of ‘Valentines’ and talk about whether it’s just overrated or whether it’s something good.

Having a boyfriend is lush. I love my other half so much and it has been amazing to spend the day with him today. Going out for lunch, exchanging funny cards and gorgeous gifts and then mooching around town. It’s so nice to do it and celebrate your love for one another. I ask though, is the day just a normal day? Is this day needed to appreciate your love and spend loads of money and do something really extravagant? I as k, because I think the other 364 days should be exactly the same as this one. It should be everyday that you love and appreciate your partner and do nice things with them. Having a catch up on the phone or having weekly dated nights or going for a nice walk every once in a while. Don’t get me wrong, it was so lovely to wake up on this day where you spend it with your other love and do something like lunch, or dinner, but I feel like its not entirely needed to have a day dedicated to this. I’d like to think I spend quality time with my boyfriend normally and we remind each other of our love normally. I just wanted to ask, should one day of the year be the day to drop everything, spend loads of money and write it all over social media? Can we not do that normally?

What about those who are single? I’ve been single for quite a few valentines day, and trust me it’s just like another day. You have breakfast, do some work and see a friend. I find it quite a normal day. That’s why I ask, is it overrated? I think it can sometimes be hard to see everyone posting about valentines day on social media when you’re at home stuffing your spoon into a pot of Ben and Jerrys. I totally get it now when people say it’s just another day for them. Nothing significant. If you are in this situation and don’t like the day, just remember it’s 24 hours and then it’s over. It goes quick. Just remind yourself of your own beauty and talent and all the great things you’ve got going for you. Spend it with your wonderful family or see a good friend . You’re not alone. Your love is just around the corner, they’re on their way!

I’m not saying this day isn’t a nice day. I’m really grateful to be spending it with my love and doing nice fun things, I just don’t want people struggling to pay for it all, thinking they have to get really pricey gifts and a meal. It’s not all about that. Just tell them you love them, give them a big hug and kiss and do what makes you guys happy. Have a great day and appreciate every second.

Until next time,

Asha