Checking in with each other!

Hey everyone! Wow, it’s been too long since I last wrote a blog post! Life has just been manic! I really feel I need to write something as these current times are so uncertain and overwhelming at times, that it’s important to address that. We need to get a balance of checking in with those friends and family, but at the same time looking after yourself and giving time for some self-care.

Some days can be really hard. We can get overwhelmed with social media, the news, people talking about Covid-19, things going on in our lives. It’s all a lot. I think I can find it really hard dealing with the constant presence of the pandemic, on top of life and all it brings to my door. I think when it all gets too much sometimes, we just want to get back into bed and hide. I certainly do. We want to go back to familiarity like our favourite TV show or a feel good book of ours. We want to feel relaxed, and as if we can escape from life sometimes. Guys, I wanted to say that it absolutely fine! We need that time to distract ourselves, and find happiness within something we find enjoyable. When things get too much at times, I like to read or watch a comfortable series, which I have watched before and makes me smile and laugh. Don’t feel guilty about this, go to those places and things when you feel you need to. It’s completely normal and certainly needed at times.

I don’t know about you, but lately I’ve found myself coming off social media as I find it is too much pressure. I feel it asks too much of me sometimes and there is this expectation to be active, talk to people on messenger and group chats, post on your story or on your page. What if we feel we can’t do this? What if we want a break? I’d say, take that time out then. I’m using social media according to how I feel. If I wake up and find it too much, I won’t go on it. If I feel I want to see what other people are up to and get updates from them, then do that. Sometimes I like seeing photos of other’s or seeing some quotes or cute pictures. It can be really healthy at times, but then really unhealthy at times. My view is, if social media is feeling toxic and negative, filled with, in my opinion, Covid-19 and politics, get off it. It’s not a mandatory thing, you’re not obliged to be on it all the time.

Do you ever have it when you have good days in the pandemic? You feel you can check in on people and have a conversation, and you can smile and laugh and be all happy, but then some days you feel weird and down, and you find everything really hard? I think it’s important to normalise this, and let people know that up and down days are normal, even more so in Covid times. Just go at your own pace, and even communicate that with others. All you need to say is ‘I’m feeling strange and weird today, maybe even overwhelmed with the current situation, can you just be aware of it, in case I appear low or moody?’

I try to check in with others at the moment, because I know now more than ever, just how important it is. There may be friends that appear to be fine, and there may be others who you haven’t heard from or appear low and quiet. I’d say, check in with all of them. There are going to be a lot of people who may put on a mask and pretend they’re okay, but really they are not. Let’s try and encourage people to get into a habit of this. It could be a matter of texting someone saying ‘Hey, was just checking in, how are you? Lots of love.’ Something like this may really make a difference and help someone more than you’ll ever know. At the same time, if you are having a bad day and feel you can’t be there for others, then wait until you feel a bit better and can be in a position to help and listen. Like I said, you have to get the balance of checking in, but taking care of yourself.

From my own experiences, I’d say take support that’s all around you when you need it. Contact your parents, your friends, your partner or support services in society itself. We are living in a global pandemic and will need help and support from others. Don’t feel you have to do it all by yourself- lean on those who can help you. It’s not ‘weak’ or ‘silly’ to ask for others to assist, it’s completely normal, and can really help you.

Do you get a range of emotions all the time from this current situation? I was wondering if others feel the same? I tend to feel a lot, and it tends to be like a rollercoaster! I can feel sad, angry, stressed, overwhelmed, confused, grumpy, confused, empty, but most of it, sometimes I don’t even know how I feel. I can’t even explain it at times. I think the overall uncertainty of everything can cause a wave of different feelings.

Day to day, I try to remind myself of all the great things I have going on. Loved ones, a roof over my head, a job, food, a car, clothes etc etc. I am so lucky for what I have and I am grateful for this. It’s all about perspective and looking at things in the bigger picture, I find. It breaks my heart that people are being lost from Covid-19 and as a result of this experience, so I try to take some time each day to reflect and remind myself of this. We are healthy.

A great quote about how this is only temporary. Better times will come, and it won’t be like this forever. A light at the end of the tunnel will come, and it will be worth it. We need to keep going and wait for the other side. It’ll come, and besides, we’ve come so far already. It’ll all be okay.

I hope to write a bit more now I’m in a better mindset. I think I want to continue talking about my own experiences and feelings, to try and hopefully give an insight to others, and maybe even make a difference.

We can do it guys, keep going. You’re doing great!

Until next time,